June 2020: MoThaRs & Boaz (Combined)

[Nkechinyere]

Hello everyone

[Steve]

Hello Pastor

[PastorChuks]

Good evening once again Pastor.

[Felicia Samuel]

Good evening Pastor

[PastorCassy]

Good evening Pastor

[Greg]

Good evening Pastor.

[CHIMA NWUZI]

Good evening Pastor.

The presentation by Dr Adie was quite refreshing.

[Promise.]

Good evening Pastor

[Nkechinyere]

That was a great message from Adie Okari. Thank you Brother Adie

[Uncle-Ike]

Yes indeed Pastor. Very refreshing

[Uncle-Ike]

Thank you once again Bro Adie

[Desmondfaafa]

Good evening pastor.

Indeed a resounding refresher course. Quite uplifting and timely.

[Nkechinyere]

Aptly put Bro Faafaa. A real refresher course

[PastorChuks]

Very refreshing and a great reminder.

[PastorEsther]

Yes indeed Pastor. Thank you Bro Adie

[Iyowuna]

Refreshing word. Thank you Boaz

[PastorSola]

Very refreshing Word. Practical truths powerfully presented. Thanks Bro. Adie.

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[Theo]

It was very refreshing and impactful

[Oke]

Yes Pastor. Good marriages don’t just happen it’s a pack of deliberate intentions on display. Thank God for His refreshing Word to us.

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[Ubong]

Hello Pastor

[Nkechinyere]

Please post your questions here and the panel is available to answer

[Emeka Ene]

Good evening Everyone and welcome to the Q&A session. This is where the rubber hits the road…

[Uncle-Ike]

This investment of time, words and money is a very interesting and sweet ‘sontin’

[Uncle-Ike]

That was INI

[Nkechinyere]

The two shall become one oh

[Uncle-Ike]

Yes o Pastor – one indeed o.

Ini is right here

[Theo]

At what point can the two not become one?

[Theo]

Is it possible that even when the two become one, both are not one? What is that that makes them one?

[Uzezi Ebulu-Orobogha]

True talk o

[Timi Igbiapu]

After all the investment and it’s still not working…what next

[Emeka Ene]

Please click on the “reply” button at the top right to type your comment or question

[Timi Igbiapu]

After investing…. everything and it’s still not working….what next?

[Oke]

Like we heard from the speaker it take 2 people looking up to God for it work. Are you both relating on same level – spirt, soul & body? What have you invested? Are making the right investment? How are you making the investing?

[Desmondfaafa]

Thanks very specially Dr Adie for this refreshing, timely and bonding revelations of truth needed in every home.

[Enekole]

Good evening Pastor. Good evening everyone. Thank you Dr Adie for an awesome message. Please can you throw some more light on the multiplier effect of marriage. Thank you

[Murtala Adams]

Refreshing words indeed. Thank you bro Adie

[Irene Arthur-Benison]

Thank God we didn’t miss it…

[Oke]

You can say that again. Its expedient for us not to miss any service because every service is designed for different areas of our lives. Imagine what we have learnt today focusing on a healthy me and a healthy marriage. We are blessed and highly favoured.

[NnaebukaofElyon]

Thank you Dr

[Gloria Tamuno]

It was indeed a refreshing session for the short time we were logged on

[Emeka Ene]

Thank you Bro Adie for a wonderful teaching

[Gloria Akintoye]

Hello Man of God. Greetings family

[MichaelAlaohuru]

Good evening family. This is very refreshing

[Maudlyn]

It was an eye opener. Thank you Sir for the word.

[Emeka Ene]

Can I ask any one to offer your top 3 takeaways from the message?

[Nkechinyere]

I certain can – We must invest for our marriages to work.

[Maudlyn]

My take away would be

Investing words in my marriage. Instead of nagging and complaining, I should invest words that uplift my spouse.

[NnaebukaofElyon]

Very true. Positive words build, while negative ones tear down

[PastorSola]

Another one – The place of our words is important.

[Grace Obomanu]

1. There is a multiplier effect in a marriage union.

2. Wife RESPECT your husband. ?

3. Husbands love your wife UNCONDITIONALLY.

[Uncle-Ike]

Marriage is a covenant

Better marriage = Better life

Invest time, words and money into your marriage and reap the benefits

[Stanley.ESA]

Spending Time with your spouse studying the word and in prayers.

[PastorChuks]

Mariage is a covenant not a contract.

There are priorities in marriage (For the husband , it’s to provide for the family and for the wife, it’s to manage the home)

Three important investments in your marriage; Quality time, kind words and your resources/money

[Iyowuna]

I need to make huge investments in my marriage. The investments I make is dependent on the harvest or outcome I desire.

[CHIMA NWUZI]

1. The closer we draw towards God, the closer we draw to our spouses.

2. We must love unconditionally as Christ loves the church.

3. We must invest time (quality and quantity), words and money for our marriages to work.

[Uzezi Ebulu-Orobogha]

Investment of words in marriage.

Investment of time

Investment of money

[MichaelAlaohuru]

1. Put God first

2. Love my wife unconditionally

3. Let God’s word have final say in my marriage

[Oke]

My take away – I must be deliberate in investing in my marriage relationship.

[Theo]

Loving our wives is not negotiable. It is fundamental

[Chidinma1]

Good Evening Pastor. Thank You Dr Adie for the teaching.

[Gloria Akintoye]

Great Job Bro Adie

[Frank Aigbavboa]

Good evening Pastor. Managing your TIME, WORDS & MONEY encapsulated everything. Great meeting brother Adie

[Pastortayo]

Thanks once again Dr. Adie

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[Emeka Ene]

With the lockdown and Covid 19, we have been forced to stay and work from home. An interesting time indeed. Can someone share how “words” have helped build the marriage relationship during this time?

[Uncle-Ike]

we dug deeper into the word of God and of course washing each other with the same word, we are getting better. Ini even just remarked that even the relationship with our children is deeper

[Nkechinyere]

That is awesome

[Emeka Ene]

Great! I experienced some stress adjusting to the different routine and WFH had no closing time, so it was “normal” to shut down from the work day at mid night. Not good for the relationship. We have since recognized the challenges and working towards a more balanced time. Call it being intentional about your relationship.

Thanks for sharing

[MichaelAlaohuru]

This period, we read Christian books together, discuss on them. It’s been quite interesting because we have more time to talk.

[Oke]

How do I remain focused when my spouse is laid back? We are both believers

[Nkechinyere]

The perception of laid-back may be the starting point. Understanding that we are both different is the beginning

[NnaebukaofElyon]

Nice perception. Wen we try to see the uniqueness in our partner you may just realize they got lot to offer. I have learnt to see my wife sweetie view about things from her own perspective

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[Maudlyn]

How do I remain MOTIVATED when I look to my spouse for some push but he is laid back? We are both believers

[Nkechinyere]

Just saw this. You have to look to HIM not him for your motivation . Simple but true..

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[auntiepatience]

Yes! Look to HIM. It’s frustrating when the focus leaves HIM to him. Personal experience. Thank you dearest Pastor Kech

[Oke]

Laid-back means not taking initiative and playing the victim when faced with situation that demand his input.

[Chioma Michael]

Thank you Pastor. Thank you Mr Adie for this awesome teaching.

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[Nkechinyere]

Being reminded that the Word is a prescription was also major for me. When a doctor gives a prescription you take it regardless of how you feel. You take it because you believe you will feel better afterwards.

[Maudlyn]

Spot on Pastor!

[Iyowuna]

Yes Pastor. We take it even when it is bitter like Chloroquine

[Oke]

Hmmmm Like a prescription the first dose may not clear it all. It’s simple, we need the third man in it, he Holy spirit to help us trust and wait to see the result. Thank Pastor for this view.

[Nkechinyere]

We must believe the WORD for our marriages

[Emeka Ene]

What words – give some examples brethren 🙂

[Oke]

For me what I have practiced over the years is words of affirmation which I confess over my marriage and both of us. These word are based on God’s Word.

[MichaelAlaohuru]

Exactly Pastor.

[Irene Arthur-Benison]

Good evening Pastor. Thank you Bro. Adie for this wonderful course. Please, is there a way this video can be rewatched or downloaded.

[Nkechinyere]

I guess it should be available in the Audio Media Store

[Irene Arthur-Benison]

Thank you Pastor.

[Ifeanyi Ezechukwukere]

Good evening family. That was a refreshing time in God’s presence. Thank you Bro Adie.

[Emeka Ene]

Practical: Your spouse is on facebook or Wharsapp and you need help to bring down a pot from the store. What “Words” can you use to get him or her to move?

[Nkechinyere]

Darling, honey pot, can you help me get this pot?

[Emeka Ene]

Ooooh my darling, for you I’ll go to the end of the earth. Pot? small thing!! Whatapp please step aside!!

[PastorChuks]

Hahaha hmm

[Ubong]

You act as if you did not notice he/she was on social media then call out, honey are you busy? Can you help? I need some help with the pot.

[Nkechinyere]

What if he/she acts like they didn’t hear you?

[Ubong]

I would call out again and ask, did you hear me? After that I would ask one of the children to help pass the message.

[Uncle-Ike]

Hmmmmm…… mood change

Sweetie m, please I need your help o (Ini, voice raised)

[CHIMA NWUZI]

You repeat it once again and remind him the special meal you plan to prepare with the pot?

[Uncle-Ike]

Di m oma, bia remove pot from stove

[PastorEsther]

Honey, can you give me a hand, please. I would appreciate it greatly. Generally, ignore Facebook even if you don’t like it. Just focus on the help you need at the time.

[Oke]

This is good for me

[Uncle-Ike]

Na Ini speak am o

[Emeka Ene]

What about offering or describing the soup that will emanate from that pot when done?

[Emeka Ene]

Ok. let us elevate the conversation. What will you do if after the nice words, he still ignores you and you are left struggling with the heavy pot? Kindly describe your next move?

[Uncle-Ike]

Hmmm… this one don dey tough o

[Nneka]

I will just sweetly yell out….’Honeyyyyy, your dinner is threatennnnned!

That should get his attention LOL!

[Oke]

Oh my

[Uncle-Ike]

Hewwu….. so this Ofe onubu I just spent money, time and effort to prepare will just go like that. Kia kia the work is done. He loves bitter leaf soup (Ini)

[Pastortayo]

This is a very simple request to make in my home. Just say ” Darl! The soup on fire is burning” Spence will leave whatever {Facebook, WhatsApp) and race to the kitchen. Anything for Garri and soup! Then you simply ask him to help you with the pot.

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[Uncle-Ike]

lol

[Nkechinyere]

You eh? ?

[NnaebukaofElyon]

So he runs to save the burning soup and meets a request for a pot?

[Nkechinyere]

Hopefully he has a sense of humour

[Oke]

The best would be to ask politely “pls I need some help over” but if being on social media has been a major distraction the words may not come out like that.

[Oke]

It will a renewed mature mind not to nag out in such a situation, for some “I need some help” will cut while others a firmed tone or bit of urgency will do it.

[Camassoma]

TThank you Dr Adie. Many blessings.

[MSA]

Thank you Dr Akari

[Chibuisi]

Very refreshing and insightful – Vickie

[Danjuma Aliyu]

Thanks, Dr Adie! Very refreshing, particularly in the light of the garbage that the devil is vomiting upon the world now.

[Nkechinyere]

I notice I have to refresh my page often to see new comments. We will work on that

[MSA]

Yes Pastor. I had the same experience

[MichaelAlaohuru]

Also indicators for new comments from admin.

[IyornagbeAitafo]

We must cultivate right words, prayers and love in our marriage.

[Gloria Akintoye]

I have come to finally accept that every marriage relationship is unique… what works for one may not work for another. The normalizing factor is the WORD

[Nkechinyere]

UNIQUE is the word

[PastorEsther]

True talk Sis Glo

[Yemisi Awotoye]

Good evening everyone. Thank you my e-pastor for having me here.

[Nkechinyere]

Welcome Yemisi. Lovely having you here

[Danjuma Aliyu]

Practical: Your spouse is on facebook or Wharsapp and you need help to bring down a pot from the store. What “Words” can you use to get him or her to move? Sweet heart, I need your help; please help me bring down a pot from the store. Thanks.

[IyornagbeAitafo]

We should know that our spouse was the object for which Jesus was sacrificed. No greater love than this that a man should lay down his life for another.

[Nkechinyere]

Thank you so so much MoThaRs and Boazes for your being here and for your engagements. The relaxed signature of our Greenville meetings was felt here online. Love you all and this is going to be an exciting platform to reach many marriages beyond TCC Greenville. We will end the meeting now to prepare for the SIngles at 6:30pm.

[Emeka Ene]

Thank you Pastor. Have a nice evening everyone

God Bless

[Pastortayo]

Thank you Pastor and everyone. Enjoy the rest of your evening.

[PastorSola]

Thank you, Pastor.

This was a great meeting and a good beginning.

Everyone, have a blessed evening and a lovely week ahead.

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[PastorChuks]

Thank you Pastor.

What a refreshing time with many silent lessons.

Good night everyone.

[Nneka]

Thank you Pastor

[Uncle-Ike]

Thank you so much Pastor. Good night

[MichaelAlaohuru]

Thank you Pastor.

[PastorEsther]

Thank you, Pastor.

[Oke]

Its so beautiful. Thank you Pastor. Lovely ahead

[Danjuma Aliyu]

Thank you Pastor (and all the Staff Partners and Volunteers) that made this online experience possible!

[Chimenem Iroanwusi]

Thank you Pastor. Refreshing time in the word.

[Nkechinyere]

You are welcome to stay and chat for as long as you want. It is an old TCC practice called “fellowship after fellowship” right from REC days. I believe these comments will be here online

[Theo]

Okestic that your question about laid back husband tell them ooo is not me ooo

[Nkechinyere]

Even monkey no say no be you…..laid back ke?

[Theo]

Pastor Correct 2 points

[Danjuma Aliyu]

How do I remain MOTIVATED when I look to my spouse for some push but he is laid back? We are both believers’. Col 3 23, Philipians 2 13. First of all, our walk with the Lord is individual. Even when our spouse inspire and motivate us, we have to recognise that the ultimate source of that inspiration and motivation is God. David encouraged himself in the Lord, when circumstances were not very encouraging. I would recommend the Word and prayer. As you consistently invest time in the Word and you consistently pray in tongues daily, the motivation you need will become apparent as the Spirit gets more opportunity to express Himself through you.